Love is a choice.
By that I mean — people choose how they are going to treat you on a daily basis in regards to their love for you. If you aren’t feeling love from someone in a continuous manner — odds are, they aren’t giving it.
I lived a long time making excuses for people, assuming they meant well — looking for the best in them even when they were choosing NOT to show me love. I always tried to excuse their behavior, believing that they meant well, or that their intentions were in the right place.
Now, I know better.
If someone loves you — you WILL feel it. It is not about what gifts they bring to you or even what words they speak — it IS about how they make you feel and vice versa. That’s not to say you won’t be hurt by them one day. But, they way they respond to that hurt is a huge factor. How they show you love.
- Love is kind
- Love is patient
- Love does NOT boast
- Love does NOT envy
- Love IS NOT PROUD
- Love does NOT dishonor others
- Love is NOT selfish
- Love is NOT easily angered
- Love keeps no record of wrong
- Love does NOT delight in evil
- Love rejoices in truth
- Love ALWAYS protects
- Love ALWAYS trusts
- Love ALWAYS hopes
- Love always perserveres
- Love NEVER fails
“If I speak in the tongues[a] of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.” 1 Corinthians 13:1
People can know the Bible back to front, but have no love!
People can prophecy and understand difficult and mysterious things — and have NO love!
People can give everything they own to charities or organizations — and have NOT love!
People can even have faith — and NOT have love.
And if people don’t have love — it begs to question — do they have God?
If your husband or boyfriend is not showing you love on a daily — even hourly basis (And by “love” i mean show you the love that God speaks of in 1Corinthians. Not just bits and pieces of the scriptures, but ALL of them — then you may need to consider that you are unequally yoked and have been (or are in the process of being) emotionally abandoned.
- If he speaks AT you and not to you!
- If he uses scripture to oppress you!
- If he thinks of himself first!
- If he calls you names!
- If he continually criticizes you!
- If he controls you in any way!
- If he hits you!
These are NOT ways of showing love!!!
At some point, you have two very important questions to ask yourself –
- Do you stay and try to make things work?
- Do you leave and start over?
I believe the answer is dependent of the circumstances. But know this:
- God IS love and He loves you!
- He will never leave you — no matter what your choice is
- You are NOT defined by your circumstances and you DO have a choice in the matter!
If you are in an abusive situation, seek professional help immediately! (abuse can be verbal, spiritual, emotional and physical) and God does NOT approve it OR expect you to accept it as the norm.
Demand and expect to be treated with Love and Respect.
Anything less isn’t worth your effort!
Until next time friends,