There is a difference between outright abuse and covert abuse.
Here’s a great article about those differences for anyone who is trying to decide whether their relationship is dysfunctional/unhealthy. However, if your gut is telling you it is, it probably is.
If you:
Walk on eggshells
Always take the blame or apologize, even if it’s not your fault
Have anxiety/depression
Can’t quite put your finger on what’s different about the person
Find yourself ALWAYS questioning your own motives or character based on the other person’s reaction
Feel trapped
Can’t make basic decisions without having to run it past the person (Controlling)
Feel like your voice is taken away
Are constantly told you’re crazy or over-react to things
If they twist conversations
If they refuse to take responsibility for their actions
– all of these are red flags! Please seek help from family, friends or a counselor!
And here’s a link to the article HERE!
Until next time friends,
~allie
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About Autoimmune allie
I am a staff writer/photographer for a newspaper. I love my work. I also love the following things: God, my boys, my family, dogs, writing, shooting photography, reading (a bit of a lit geek actually), cooking, being outdoors, hiking, fishing, film, music, beards, tattoos, board games, TV (also a TV geek), pajamas, blankets, polar bears, art, food. I dislike these things: elevators, heights, unclear water, bridges. I also have multiple autoimmune diseases that cause all sorts of issues for me in my daily life. That's what this blog is about. Living the day-to-day with more than six (combined) autoimmune disorders. I have Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, Fibromyalgia, Celiac Disease, Palindromic rheumatism and Mixed Connective Tissue Disorder (MCTD is an overlap of three autoimmune diseases including lupus, scleroderma and polymyositis). I guess that's about it. Thanks for reading my blog and hoping it brings some comfort and joy to others who suffer from autoimmune disorders!! God Bless!
I realized in retrospect how unhealthy my relationship was with my Ex. He never laid a hand on me but he might as well have with how abusive his words and actions were towards me. :/
Katie – words hurt, especially when you begin to believe them. It’s difficult when there is no physical evidence, only emotional wounds. It’s especially difficult when it’s covert rather than outright verbal abuse too. Glad to hear he’s an ex. You deserve a man who will treat you like a queen
Ps: Just realized it was you —
There’s a guy here on wordpress that has an excellent blog about this subject! His whole blog is dedicated to helping with codependency. http://malecodependence.com/
Great write!
I enjoyed reading. 